giovedì 29 agosto 2013

Non è sbagliato costruire castelli di sabbia

In questi ultimi tempi ho sempre più amici che soffrono per amori finiti male, anzi, per essere stati semplicemente "mollati", e che non si rassegnano a tale condizione.
Questo post è per i loro cuori congelati.

Sembra che non ci sia via d'uscita di tornare a vedere la luce fuori dal tunnel del cuore spezzato.
Sembra una malattia che ti prende testa, anima, corpo e cuore, divorando ogni cellula del nostro organismo.
Quanto tempo ho dedicato a queste povere anime deluse dall'amore, disperati e chiusi in se stessi, baraccati nella fortezza della loro frustrazione, rintanati in isolamento, per paura che il prossimo amore li faccia soffrire altrettanto.

Ma è mai possibile soffrire anni e anni per amore, con tutto quello che il mondo ci offre ogni giorno ???
Annullarsi completamente, quasi distruggersi per qualcuno che non ha saputo apprezzare nulla,
oppure era solo incompatibile ??? E' follia lo stesso.
Tutti abbiamo sofferto, pianto e ci siamo rimboccati le maniche, con fatica e sacrificio...
un giorno non ci si pensa più, anzi, ci si ride sopra con grandezza, con orgoglio e maturità di esserne usciti fortificati.

"Sii come la fonte che trabocca e non come la cisterna che racchiude sempre la stessa acqua".
 H.Hesse diceva:" Non esiste un sogno perpetuo. Ogni sogno cede il posto ad un sogno nuovo, e non bisogna volerne trattenere alcuno."

Un giorno torna la forza e il coraggio per ritrovare il sorriso, la decisione di metterci una pietra sopra e il momento di ricominciare a credere in qualcosa di bello.
E' questo qualcosa di bello non deve essere per forza il grande amore folle:

Quando incontri una persona speciale vivi momenti emozionanti che fanno tremare la tua anima.

Poi vorresti vivere quei momenti altre mille volte. La nostalgia, che non può essere spiegata a parole, è quello che spesso ti spinge ad andare avanti.

Ogni momento però è diverso, ogni istante va vissuto per quello che può dare e per quello che può aprire dentro di noi. Ogni volta è diverso.
L'amore non è altro che la scoperta di noi stessi negli altri e la gioia di riconoscersi.
Si vuole essere sempre innamorati anche se l'unica cosa che sappiamo è che l'amore ci lascerà
come gusci svuotati.
Un'esperienza d'amore forma più di ogni altra cosa. Ci accompagna tutta la vita.


Certamente tutti passiamo momenti in cui ci affidiamo ai ricordi i nostri momenti di difficoltà.
L’errore che si commette è vedere in ogni situazione o persona quello che vorresti rivivere.

“Il giorno inizia dove finisce la notte,

l’allegria comincia dove termina la tristezza,

i nostri sogni iniziano a  realizzarsi

quando comincia la nostra capacità di crederci

e di lottare.

Ricorda:  nessuno lotterà  mai per i tuoi sogni,
solo tu puoi farlo.

"Non è sbagliato costruire castelli di sabbia, nè illudersi che siano castelli:

l’importante è ricordarsi che sono di sabbia"

( e cioè non sono fatti per durare )

Nella vita le cose tristi passano sempre, come in un fiume.
Anche le più difficili, che ti sembra impossibile superare, li superi e in un'attimo le trovi
dietro le spalle e ti meravigli come era possibile soffrire così tanto per così poco.
( nel senso di quanto sappiamo di valere)

Come evitare la sofferenza ?
Certamente ci sono mille soluzioni , ma io penso che non bisogna mai smettere di amare.
L'unico antidoto al dolore è l'amor proprio.

 Alcune cose saranno sempre più forti del tempo e della distanza,
più profonde del linguaggio e delle abitudini:

seguire i propri sogni e imparare a stare in equilibrio, essere se stessi,
condividendo con gli altri la magia di quella scoperta, sapendo che
a volte devi attraversare l'inferno per arrivare in paradiso.





venerdì 23 agosto 2013

The Island of the Heart Story

The Island of the heart story, now also for my english speaking friends!


There was once an island where all the feelings lived and all human values:
the good mood, sadness, wisdom, humility, joy, courage, and all other feelings,
of course including the Amour.

One day it was announced that a tsunami was approaching and would overwhelm the island.
Then all prepared their boats and fled. Love remained alone, waiting until the last moment.
When the island was on the verge of extinction, Love decided to ask for help.

Wealth passed by Love in a luxury yacht and Love says:
"Richness, can you take me?"

"I cannot do that because I have a lot of gold and silver in my boat and there is no place for you."

Then Love decided to ask vanity who was passing in a beautiful vessel:

"Pride, I beg you, take me."

"I can not take you, love, you could destroy the perfection that exists on my boat."

Love then asked the sadness that passed by:

 "Sadness, I beg you, take me."

 "Oh Love, sadness answered, I am so sad that I need to be alone."

Good mood then passed love, but she was so happy she did not hear it called.

Suddenly a voice said:

"Come, Love, I will take you with me."

He was a man who had called him. Love was so happy and filled with joy, that he forgot to ask his name. Arrived on land, the old man went. Love realized how much she owed.
He approached and asked knowledge:

 "Knowledge can you tell me who is the one who helped me?"

 "It's time" replied knowledge.

 "The time? asked Love. Why does time helped me?"

Knowledge the wise answered,

"BECAUSE ONLY TIME IS CAPABLE OF UNDERSTANDING HOW MUCH
 IMPORTANT LOVE IS IN OUR LIFE."



giovedì 22 agosto 2013

HAPPINESS is the soundtrack of my life


While genetics do play a role in our overall level of happiness,
our thoughts, feelings, beliefs, and actions are significant as well.
You may be surprised to learn that achievements, circumstances,
and material possessions have little effect on joy.
If you place your focus on discovering your purposeful authenticity
and become engaged in the passionate expression of what you love,
your inner life and happiness level would, indeed, change.

Happiness and joy have everything to do with personal fulfillment.
Once we all understand that deep-soul joy is possible for all of us,
we can transform our world, one person at a time...
remember only a fool takes things for granted, and never let yesterday's
disappointments overshadow tomorrows dreams!

Be thankful for what you have.
A lot of the times, at the root of insecurity and lack of confidence is a feeling
of not having enough of something, whether it's emotional validation, good luck, money, etc.
By acknowledging and appreciating what you do have, you can combat the feeling of being
incomplete and unsatisfied.
Finding that inner peace will do wonders for your confidence.

Be Positive, even if you don't feel the same way.
Avoid self-pity, or the pity and sympathy of others.
Never allow others to make you feel inferior, they can only do so if you let them.
If you continue to loathe and belittle yourself, others are going to do and believe likewise.
Instead, speak positively about yourself, about your future, and about your progress.
Do not be afraid to project your strengths and qualities to others.
By doing so, you reinforce those ideas in your mind and encourage your growth in a positive direction.


   

mercoledì 21 agosto 2013

LOVE always manages to find a perfect solution



No matter what problems you are facing,
love always manages to find a perfect solution.

Risk more than others think is safe.
Care more than others think is wise.
Dream more than others think is practical.
Expect more than others think is possible.
Claude Bissel

Give more than others think is necessary.
Believe more than others think is right.
Share your feelings more than others think is expectable.
Get in touch with love more than others think is reasonable.
Deep inside you know, it will all turn back to you!
... that's me

Everyone can catch your eye, but it takes someone special to catch your heart.

Hope is a seed planted in our hearts to remind us there are better things ahead.

We can't be afraid of change.
You may feel very secure in the pond that you are in,
but if you never venture out of it,
you will never know that there is such a thing as an ocean,
a sea, flowers and a sky.
Holding onto something that is good for you now,
may be the very reason why you don't have something better.
C.Joy Bell C.

It doesn't matter how many say it cannot be done or how many
people have tried it before;
it's important to realize that whatever you are doing, go confidently
in the direction of your wishes, trust yourself, you can do more
that you think to know and if something seems to be like an end,
it may also be only the beginning.

Love one another but make not a bond of love.
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.

lunedì 19 agosto 2013

Make Happiness an attitude

Today I just wanted to dedicate some beautiful thoughts to all my friends,
who don't live in Italy, and mean so much to me,
To those who have touched my life in one way or another,
To those who make me smile when I really need it,
To those that make me see the brighter side of things when I am really down,
To those whom I want to know
That I appreciate their friendship.



I prefer to be a dreamer among the humblest, with visions to be realized,
than Lord among those without dreams and desires.


Your life is your garden, your thoughts are the seeds.
If your life isn't awesome, you have been watering the weeds.


Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak;
courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen.


There is no way to happiness.
Happiness is the way, so treasure every moment you have
and remember that time waits for no one.


The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance;
the wise groes it under his feet.


We never get what we want,
We never want what we get,
We never have what we like,
We never like what we have.
And still we live and love.
That's life...


The best kind of friends,
Are the kind you can sit on a porch and swing with,
Never say a word,
And then, walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you've ever had.


 It's true that we don't know
What we've got until it's gone,
But it's also true that we don't know
What we've been missing until it arrives.


Giving someone all your love is never an assurance that they'll love you back!
Don't expect love in return;
Just wait for it to grow in their heart,
But if it doesn't, be content, knowing that it grew in yours.


It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone,
An hour to like someone,
And a day to love someone,
But it takes a lifetime to forget someone.
.

Don't go for looks; they can deceive.
Don't go for wealth; even that fades away.
Go for someone who makes you smile,
Because it takes only a smile to
Make a dark day seem bright.
Find the one that makes your heart smile.


May you have
Enough happiness to make you sweet,
Enough trials to make you strong,
Enough sorrow to keep you human,
And enough hope to make you happy.


Always put yourself in others' shoes.
If you feel that it hurts you,
It probably hurts the other person, too.


The happiest of people
Don't necessarily have the best of everything;
They just make the most of everything that comes along their way.
Happiness lies for
Those who cry,
Those who hurt,
Those who have searched,
And those who have tried,
For only they can appreciate the importance of people
Who have touched their lives.